Yesterday was my 35th birthday. I had a blast and also realized that I don’t “feel” 35. I feel like a green newbie to this thing called life. But that’s the feeling I LOVE! I love exploring and discovering new things; I enjoy being out of my comfort zone because it pushes me think outside of the box. For me, life has been one amazing surprise after another, and for that I am so grateful. What I have learned is not to question my circumstances, always do my best and always be grateful. Thank you 🙏🏽
Woman are faced with such high standards to meet regarding appearance. We are not Barbie dolls but we are expected to look like one. I’m surrounded by women that have resulted to cosmetic surgery at some point, trying to achieve their “perfect body.” The thing is, there is no such thing as a perfect body, people have different tastes and styles. What’s great for you may be insufficient for me. We are all beautiful, no matter how different we are. So those who try to chance their appearance to conform to society’s standard of perfection, might want to focus on changing society’s standards instead.
The struggle is real for females. I can’t say I know what the struggle is like for males but I can tell you what my struggles are.
My first struggle in life was getting my period for the first time. I did not understand why my body was expelling blood from my vagina nor why this process had to take place on a monthly basis but I knew for sure that IT SUCKED. Once I looked into the menstrual cycle and why it occurred, I understood this process was necessary and it became clear to me that females have it the worst lol. Besides our period, woman endure a lot, that a good percentage of men do not have to consider. As a girlfriend/wife I work full-time then come home and it’s time to start cooking. While I’m cooking, I’m straightening up the house so when my man/husband comes home, he is pleased with what he sees. Along with keeping a clean house, I have to make sure clothes are washed, food shopping is done, bills are paid, my guy is taken care of and I have to look good doing it. Looking good includes: hair done, eyebrows done, mani pedi (when I feel like it *Fab voice), shaved and looking good in and out of the house.
Honestly, by the time I get to the bills being paid, I kinda slack in the taking care of my man (outside of basic needs like food, shelter and sleep) and looking and feeling good about myself. But can you blame me?!?! I feel like I have so much pressure on me on a daily basis. Between going to work and handling everything that needs to be done there, then coming home and cooking, cleaning, washing, catering and having energy to feel good, feels almost impossible sometimes. Mind you, if the female is in school and/or has children, those factors are placed at the top of the list as well and she’s pushed down even farther.
I’m independent and take pride in making my man feel like my king. I can’t say my actions are “up to par” everyday but I know I can deliver and he does too. That’s why he keeps me around 😉
So guys, when you’re complaining about your girl, remember the things I’ve mentioned and if she does the things on this list, cut her some slack. She deserves it. And if she is consistent through her cycle, she deserves jewelry (and a full body message.)
*P.S. If there are men reading this and do the things on my list, you’re a diamond in the rough.
I know some men will read this and think it’s a tall tale. To those men, ask some women in your life if what I’ve written is true and maybe they can help you better understand their struggles as a woman.