Human Nature

I believe, it’s unnatural to be monogamous. Think about it, the energy you feel when you are attracted to someone is almost like an animal attraction. There doesn’t have to be any words exchanged, that energy alone is enough to know that person is into you. And this can happen anytime, anywhere with anyone. It’s unpredictable.

When the strength of that energy starts to diminish with one person, we begin to become interested in other things. Newer, interesting, more attractive things (and when I say things, I mean people lol) and we begin the cycle with someone new. The possibility of this happening is also unpredictable.

When two people share that initial energy (the animal attraction,) and one of those people begins to have that attraction with someone besides their partner, their partner starts to feel the shift in energy and starts to question what is going on. Think about it, when you are in a relationship and you are being cheated on, you almost know it. It’s hard to explain but there is a feeling you get (instinct, if you will) that tells you to question the relationship. Which leads to you looking trough your partners phone, popping up at their job, placing GPS devices in their car and/or phone, etc.

Another reason I don’t think monogamy is natural is because (in my experiences) even when a person proven to be cheating on their partner, the person who is cheated on is willing to forgive the cheater and continue with the relationship. What is the point of setting an expectation for relationships, that everyone is supposed to abide by, but when a person does not meet that expectation, they are still given the privileges of someone that does. It’s like stating a rule and telling people not to break it but when people do break it, there’s not many consequences for it. And I am not here to victim shame, the cheater dosen’t stay guilty for long either! What’s the saying? Once a cheater, always a cheater. Like it’s thier way of being and you either accept it or don’t.

I know a lot of people in relationships, I don’t know many of them to be faithful. And for those who seem to be faithful, I would like to believe they are.If cheating is so wrong, why are people willing to forgive it so easily?

So when I say it’s human nature to be attracted to people other than our partners, I’m talking about the energy and instincts we experience so naturally through this process. Just on some Brilliant Idiot 💩 ✌🏽️

You Are Not Alone (Micheal Jackson voice)

I have this defense mechanism that I’ve used for as long as I can remember. I will have the desire to become close to someone, develop a relationship of some sort. Then my trust issues sink in and I start to doubt their sincerity. I know all is genuine on my end but the doubt I feel from their end is what makes me call it quits.

Sometimes I think I don’t need anymore people in my life. And sometimes I feel like I’m cheating myself out of an experience of meeting new people and experiencing new things. But I look at it as; I’d rather protect myself from the start, than feel like a sucker down the line.

You Can’t Help Who U Love

I had lunch with a friend today and she brought up Gay Marriage being legalized in the U.S. She talked about being against the decision (which I took as misunderstanding on her part,) and she stated that this was a sign the world was going to end. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not sure just how serious she was… but to say things like that, kidding or not; IS NOT COOL. You can not relate to something, you know nothing about. You can’t offer your input on anything without experiencing it yourself. If you are heterosexual, does that mean you should be treated differently than homosexuals, bisexuals or transgender individuals?!?!? If you answered yes to this question, you’re wrong. That a form of segregation, which we did away with long ago! We are all human and should all be treated equally. If you have any questions or concerns about the LGBTQ community, I suggest you become educated because there can be no progress with ignorance. We all deserve the right to be miserable in holy matrimony. And if you don’t like it, Oh Well!

You Ain’t No Fortune Teller

It is amazing how you can imagine your future and that image can disintegrate over time. When you’re high off happiness, it seems like nothing can go wrong and your plans are going to work out fine. But when you come down from that high and you realize things can and will go wrong, your future starts to look very unclear.

Cuffin Season Is OVER

So , now that it’s getting warm outside, relationships are falling apart. It never fails, this time of year your relationship status is in jeopardy of changing.

People need a cuffing partner in the Fall and Winter due to the cold conditions outside; they want to remain in the house and hugged up. But in the Spring and Summer time, people want to be free to roam and mingle without looking over their shoulders and worrying about getting caught.

If I’ve just enlightened you, you’re welcome.

iPhone Problems 😩

If I have so much reception, that spinning circle should not be on my screen for more than 60 seconds.image

The moment I start to pray I find a charger soon.                            IMG_4675

My Natural Hair Journey

As you guys know from my previous post, “I love my hair, IDC IDC,” I have stopped relaxing my hair. I am finally beginning to learn how to treat and style my transitioning hair. (YouTube has been a huge help!) Yesterday, I decided to take a shot at Bantu Knots because my hair seemed untamable and here are my results this am. I must say, I’m happy and am excited to learn new ways to treat and style my natural hair.

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